Why it’s okay to starve your kids.

Do you know that feeling where you are just your own worst enemy?????????

IMG_4349Conversation 1

Big Jimmy “I’ve got this roll of fat around my belly. I can’t get rid of it and I don’t understand why. I eat really healthily. “

Me “do you drink (alcohol)?”

Big Jimmy “I can’t give up my drink. I need it to relax when I get in from work”.

Conversation 2

Wee Jessie “I can’t get wee Archie to eat vegetables”.

Me “What do you mean?”

Wee Jessie “I put them on his plate but he just pushes them to the side and doesn’t eat them”.

Me “what does he eat then?”

Wee Jessie “I give him more pasta”.

Me “Well don’t give him anything else. Offer him the vegetables or nothing”.

Wee Jessie [look of bemusement on face]. “He won’t eat them. He’ll refuse and he’ll be starving”.

Me “he’ll eat when he’s hungry”.

Been there, seen it, done it and worn the t-shirt. Wee Jessie doesn’t want a battle. It’s so much easier just to give in to wee Archie. I mean, who wants a kid having a temper tantrum.

There’s nothing like being in your comfort zone. That warm feeling of familiarity and lack of resistance. So many of us have created our own self induced comfort zones. I hate to tell you this guys, but there’s a fat chance of you achieving your goals and having an easier life unless you step outside of that comfort zone.

Go into your head, notice what and how you feel when you’re about to have that drink; when you’re giving in to wee Archie, whatever the act of self sabotage might be. Just stay there and feel it. Don’t retreat and jump right in for the glass of wine or that bag of Goldfish for wee Archie because you think he might be hungry because he didn’t eat his vegetables. He won’t starve! And do go giving in an hour later and giving him something he wants. What’s going through your head? You’ve had a stressful day at work. Who wants to argue with Archie over vegetables. Ah, the wine will help me de-stress.

But you know, giving in won’t make the stress at work disappear. It won’t address any issues in your relationship. It won’t make having kids any easier. It won’t make wee Archie a better kid. In fact, wee Archie will see that he can take the mickey and he’ll just push your buttons more. It won’t clear up the debt. It won’t find you a new job. It won’t address your self esteem issues. It won’t make you lose weight or get fitter. Be aware of your why. Face your tolerance threshold and break through it. If your relationship is shite, sit down with your partner and address it. Blocking it out with a few drinks is just prolonging the pain. And BTW, the vast majority of the population have issues. It’s normal. It’s life. You can’t hide.

And it’s not just booze and giving in to your kids for an easy life. Are you over exercising (aka spending too much time in the gym and achieving little results), binge eating, eating junk, excessive shopping, whinging, having hissy fits, wallowing in self pity……….. I could go on. It’s hard to believe that some of us are in our comfort zones when we are complaining and being miserable. But think about it, we don’t know any different. I mean, content? What’s content? It’s unfamiliar.

You have a choice. Try it and see how you feel afterwards. You won’t know unless you try……..so next time you’re about to spend 30 minutes bitching about your lazy colleague at work; you’re about to have that glass of wine to de-stress; you’re about to give in to your kid’s whims; STOP!!!! Ask yourself what you’re achieving. (And your kids will eat their veggies when they’re hungry. You just might need to feed them carrots, romaine lettuce , broccoli and cucumber every day. They’ve got taste buds.) If the answer is nothing more than avoiding a difficult situation or decision then nod that little head in recognition……..maybe that’s what you need to address.

Now go grab yourself a glass of water and one of these delicious nutrient dense cookies……….


Macademia nut and “white chocolate” cookies


  • 200g of oatmeal
  • 60g of unsweetened coconut
  • 70g of melted coconut oil or melted butter (butter is best J)
  • 60g of maple syrup or honey
  • 1 beaten egg
  • 50g of chopped macadamia nuts
  • 50g of chopped white chocolate or cocoa butter


  1. Heat your oven to 325 degrees.
  2. Blend 25g of the oatmeal to a fine crumb in a blender.
  3. Add the rest of the oatmeal, the beaten egg, oil and syrup and use your hands to combine.
  4. Let it sit for 5 to 10 minutes for the liquids to be absorbed by the oatmeal.
  5. Add the coconut, nuts and chocolate/cocoa butter and combine.
  6. Form into small balls. Really press these into a ball as they need to be well formed or when you cook them, they’ll crumble.
  7. Place the balls on a cookie sheet and gently flatten with the palm of your hand.
  8. Bake for 15 to 20 minutes until golden.
  9. Allow to cool and eat…..not all at once!
  10. Store in the fridge.


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